Years ago, I was hired as the Global Chief Marketing Officer position at a public company called Spark Networks, which owned the world’s largest group of niche religious dating websites.
Here’s what you need to know before you read further. My mother raised me as a Roman Catholic in Brooklyn, NY, though I’m not religious now. I am married and have twin daughters under the age of 10, and I’m gay.
Sit with that for a moment. : An out gay man managing Judeo-Christian faith-based dating websites.
Today, I reflect on my experience in that role and recall the leadership lessons that propelled my growth and led me to become an Executive Coach and Team Facilitator. …
I want to talk about Imposter Syndrome (IS), and here’s why.
For those who are hearing this name for the first time, Imposter Syndrome is the idea that we feel like we are a fraud or phony much of the time.
Imagine walking through life, feeling inadequate, incompetent, less knowledgeable, and less skilled and that it is only time before you will be exposed. For many people, Imposter Syndrome gets in the way of future achievements. …
On June 15, 2020, the Supreme Court ruled that the 1964 landmark civil rights law prohibits discrimination against gay and transgender workers. Up until the decision, only 22 states protected LGBT employees from workplace discrimination, with the result being an unequal patchwork of LGBT workplace protections. Now, millions of LGBT employees will enjoy federal workplace job security.
When I remember that a handful of CEOs or members of the Board of Directors at major companies in the US are part of the LGBT community, I wonder: Will this ruling herald the end of the rainbow glass ceiling?
To achieve the ultimate pinnacle of success at work, LGBT employees should…
Gay men live fabulous, carefree lives (on TV)
If you watch mainstream TV sitcoms such as Will & Grace or Modern Family, you may be forgiven for believing that gay men are universally affluent, white-collar professionals who hail from a single socioeconomic stratum and face no visible career obstacles.
The reality is more sobering: gay men earn on average 10% to 30% less than similarly qualified non-gay males according to a revealing study by the Williams Institute at UCLA. For decades, much academic ink has (rightly) been spilled about the pay gap for women and people of color.
Less studied and understood is why the LGBTQ+ population routinely earn less than their similarly qualified white, non-LGBTQ+ counterparts, even when controlling for gender and race. …
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” — Charles Darwin
For many leaders, this is the first time an existential crisis has emerged. Uncertainty around the spread and consequences of COVID-19 has wreaked havoc across the world, in all parts of our lives, at home, at work, and everywhere we go in-between.
Seasoned leaders may believe the crisis is reminiscent of the beginning of the Great Recession. Markets contracted then, businesses changed, and consumer behavior shifted. Never before in our modern life have both health and financial crises been so intertwined. …
As an Executive Coach, I help leaders get an edge. We often work on clarifying vision, defining strategy, building culture, understanding competition, and hiring humans to resolve challenges and grow business.
Talk about preparing for disruptions and managing them to emerge stronger than before is common. This post provides a brief look into some of the top discussions we are having now.
There is fear about disruptions, their seemingly overnight appearance, and their impact on business. Many claim disruptions happen overnight, and the company could not have known. I’m here to tell you that it is not 100% true. Impending disruptions provide clues. …
More and more, we hear that companies experience big breakthroughs as a result of leadership connecting different ideas, approaches and diverse perspectives. The outcome is fresh thinking to solve some of the toughest of problems.
Over the past few years, I have noticed a trend.
When I ask friends or colleagues how they’re doing, more often than not the answer I get is “busy.” I have even allowed myself to say that I’m busy too. I started hearing “busy” as an answer so much that it got me thinking about the word busy (and why we use it so much). …
Building Resilience To Become Mentally Tough: 3 Things You Need To Know To Coach Yourself Through A Tough Time
People often think of resilience as the ability to bounce back after something bad happens. It’s actually that plus a little more. According to Harvard Researchers, there are generally three ways people cope with disastrous things that may have occurred:
1) People may retreat and lose their confidence for a long period of time (loss);
2) People may suffer through the process but end up where they were before the bad thing occurred (neutral);
3) People suffer through the process and grow from the experience that occurred (gain). …
Anxiety. It’s a word I hate to even use because I feel like when I do it gives it power.
Some anxiety is good. Some is bad.
Today, we are more anxious than almost anytime before. So, you know this from watching TV, or talking to friends, colleagues or loved ones. Anxiety is all around us.
And, we deal with stress every single day. It looks different to each of us, because we are different. That means it shows up differently for each of us. For some, it makes us feel screwed up, sad and even isolated. For others, it may make us motivated and hyper to get things done. Either way, we may feel like we have a lot of problems. Sometimes, we may want to share what’s going on, but fear being vulnerable (especially the dudes out there). We may be lonely. If any of this speaks to you, know this: it makes sense that you feel this way, and you are totally ok to have these feelings and emotions. I mean that. …